NIN – Only

What the hell is love?

And why do modern humans invest so much time, effort, money, and other commodities in finding it? Beyond the biological need to reproduce and spread your genetic material far and wide (which is apparently illegal in most countries, who’d've known eh?), there’s a deeper, sharper desire to find something indefinable, something that shakes the ground you walk on and makes you dizzy, something that changes you completely in an instant, and over the span of years.

Google trots out Princeton U’s definition which kicks off with ‘a strong positive emotion of regard and affection’. Ah, clinical. So, modern man traverses the globe in a quest for a strong positive emotion eh? We’re all just slaves to an obscure bio-chemical process that affects our neurological punishment/reward system?

‘I’d give my life, I’d sacrifice years, for a fuzzy chemical reaction inside my brain that makes me fawn over someone else’.

‘I’d walk the rocky road to hell and back, barefoot, for her regard and affection’.

Actually, that last one sounds vaguely Victorian. Definitely velvet-smoking-jacket and monocle territory. There’s something about that potent emotional state – human beings do weird things. They’ll go completely out of character, make great sacrifices, and do some completely futile things, all in the name of an ill-defined emotion that, far from being cultural, seems to be a key part of the human psyche.

It’s even more fascinating when it’s one-sided. One person’s devotion to another, who could be completely oblivious to the fact. Some people will live their entire lives bearing some kind of sputtering torch for someone who may never know they even exist. It’s the possibility of that emotion that seems to spur them on, the imagined promise of an earthly Eden where everything will make sense, and everything will fall into place. Maybe that’s a reflection of our deep-seated hatred of being helpless animals, the rage of being naked against the night and day if it weren’t for technology. Humans in the wild? Out on the plains? Easy fodder for lions, prone to death by exposure, malnourishment, or the simple, excruciating death by starvation or thirst. We need to at least pretend to be in control, to be able to order and construct things, or we’d die of pure helplessness. A dog can cope quite effortlessly, lost in the wilds – a human? Well. We’ve lost the wild edge.

Humans are incredibly illogical and bizarre. And I’m one of them.

Published in: on October 9, 2009 at 11:45  Leave a Comment  

Jimi Hendrix – Purple Haze

I once knew a girl…

A girl who potentially smoked more weed than the crew of the Cypress Hill tour bus, a girl who couldn’t face work without ripping a few cones before she left the house. She was one of the sweetest, kindest people I’ve ever had the fortune to meet, a girl almost bubbling over with an energetic sense of vitality and life. Yet she was stoned, a lot. I wonder sometimes how she would’ve coped or what she would’ve done, had the cloud of smoke dissipated, and the fugue lifted.

Weed was a crutch that she needed to get through the day. I’ve dallied in that sort of chemical support with a three week hospital-grade-codeine visit to La La land, three weeks lost to a cotton-wool-padded dreamstate that left me more of a wreck than before I started. At the time, it was what I needed. Afterwards? A lamentable waste of three days, one that showed me a dark side to my psyche, an addictive, avoidant side I’ve since gone to great pains to kill off. Anyhow, so this girl… her mother died. Tragically. In her late forties, in an accident. And still the girl kept smoking, at the same steady pace, affected and yet… unaffected at the same time.

I was horrified.

I’ve known grief. I’ve known death. I’ve felt the razored keening that threatens to shred you from the inside out; as much as those emotions hurt, and as bad as the pain was, I endured it. It changed me. For better or worse, I’m still not sure, only that I’m more resilient, more open-minded, and more emotive as a result. If I had’ve curled in on myself during those dark, dark days, I wouldn’t be who I am today. I’d be more naive, more brittle, less able to flex and change, which is a key part of me now.

I bet she still smokes, still withdraws from a world brimming with experiences, good and bad, all of which she’s missing in favour of a burning weed. To each their own eh?

Published in: on October 9, 2009 at 10:33  Leave a Comment  

A scar.

There was a girl, we’ll call her C.

Wait.

This doesn’t matter. She doesn’t matter. It’s entries like this, or similar LJ entries I once wrote that bring back the bittersweet memories of a relationship that was screwed up by both people. There’s no longer any blame or guilt attached, just a reminiscent sense of bewilderment that something so good could go so bad. It was my first exposure to deep emotional pain*, and one I’m never likely to forget, but at the same time it was moderately self-induced. I could have done things vastly differently.

Now, more often than not, it amuses me. Lots of things amuse me.

Turisas covering Rasputin, and actually making it rock amuses me.

Grooming my supervisor into the sort of boss I can more easily manipulate amuses me.

Riding too fast, leaning too far, and being an aggressive little twerp on the bike amuses me, sometimes.

*after a long period of emotional insensibility. Childhood had its ups and downs.

Life should be amusing. You’re only on the planet for a geological blink, may as well make the most of it. Do, rather than contemplate. Work your arse off and save all your money for two decades to buy an Aston Martin and live in it, if that’s what you want. Nobody has the right to judge you (short of criminal acts, naturally) and we’re all different. Some more different than others. Clearly.

That said, I’m off to work to put away more cash for Next Bike. Which is getting jitteringly close. I can almost feel the triple rumbling.

Published in: on May 8, 2009 at 11:50  Leave a Comment  

U.S. II

The guttural yell carried through the mist, a directionless, hoarse challenge. Thorir Utlisson, old and bearish, was roused from his fitful sleep by the noise, kicking open the wooden shutters on his bed closet and snatching his sword from above the doorway, storming out into the night.

White mist surrounded the farm, the glow of the moon low in the hills illuminating the fog. From the west, the yell came again, clearer, and Thorir understood.

‘Thorir, son of Utli, I come for you.’

‘Then come, and find your end stranger. Who calls Thorir from bed?’

Through the mist came dark clouds, shadows shaping into the form of a giant. A tall man, a lean man, an armed man. Slender arms hung down, each ending in the small, vicious head of an axe. As the vision strode forward, Thorir paled.

‘Ghost, ghoul, come down from the hill and face a man.’

The vision began shrinking, edges becoming more and more defined, solidifying out of the night glow.

‘A man? What sort of man is it that burns another in his own house? What sort of man sells a wife and child of another into slavery after taking his spoils of them? What sort of man beguiles a friend, a comrade, a sword-brother, and murders him in his sleep?’

Thorir’s mind raced, his tongue attempting to catch up with his fevered thoughts.

‘Mound-dweller… who are y-

‘Ulfgar. Son of Grettir. Husband of Sigrid Odinnsdottir, father of Thorleif Ulfgarsson, warrior of-

‘Odin’s one eye, we killed you.’

‘Yes. You did.’

Ulfgar strode from the mist, beating the hammers of both axes together in a quickening double-beat, until he was only a few strides from Thorir. Thorir’s grip on his sword tightened, the point wavering but slowly rising.

‘You were dead, and now you walk, whether you’re a ghost or somehow came back from Hel’s halls, I’ll send you straight back there.’

‘You tried that once. Didn’t quite go to plan, did it?’ Ulfgar’s axes spread apart, each axe head glistening in the mist.

‘I know what you did Thorir. I know all of it. Your friends sold you out, right before I ushered them to the next life. You should have killed me. Instead you took what was mine, you tortured those I loved, and you betrayed a bloodbrother. There will be no Valhalla awaiting you, there will be no feasts, no horns, no Ragnarok. Even Hel will not admit you; even she has better men than the likes of you. And your son, that effeminate little weasel, will join you.’

‘Weasel? I don’t object to the effeminate, we can’t all be brawn and bash, but weasel?’ Atli, son of Thorir, stood in the doorway of the farmhouse, the slender length of a drawn bow in his hands.

‘Atli.’ Ulfgar’s tone was flat.

‘Your little boy, Thorleif. He was so sweet, so timid, so… tight.’

Silence reigned. Thorir fidgeted, straining to keep the tip of his sword up. Atli tightened his two finger grip on the bowstring. Ulfgar breathed in and out, slowly, deeply, methodically.

‘Atli, no gods will take you. Not even the god of the Cross-people. You are forsaken, by all, for what you are and what you have d-

The bow made a faint whistling noise, the arrow speeding over the scant yards and racing towards Ulfgar’s chest. In less than a blink, an axe deflected the missile, the second axe already spinning end over end before the blade buried itself in Atli’s forehead, freezing a look of complete surprise on his pale features. As he slumped in the doorway, Thorir let out a hollow, empty sound, part groan, part whistle, his knees sagging slightly as the tip of his sword hit the cold earth.

‘An honourable man would let you walk away from here Thorir, to bury your son, to live your days with your grief, to let you fester and poison yourself with hatred, and rage, and thoughts of revenge.’

Ulfgar stalked closer to Thorir, just out of reach, as Thorir tightened his grip on the hilt of his sword, waiting for his chance, trying to block the image of his son’s split head out of his thoughts.

‘An honourable man would challenge you to a duel, with attendants, and let you avenge your progeny. My honour was burnt, raped, sold into slavery and ultimately murdered. ‘ Ulfgar’s voice rose in strength and force, the last few words coming out in a bellow that froze Thorir to the spot as Ulfgar leaned in towards him, their noses scant inches apart.

‘I am not an honourable man. ‘

Thorir lunged forward, so entranced by Ulfgar’s twisted face he didn’t see the backward-gripped axe between them, or feel the parting of the cloth and flesh on his belly as Ulfgar slashed upwards. Steaming intestines spilled out on the dew-jewelled grass as Thorir’s sword clattered harmlessly off Ulfgar’s mailed side.

Confused and numb, Thorir tried to claw his looping guts back into his prodigious belly, oblivious to Ulfgar sidestepping around him, reaching down and grabbing lengths of slippery, greasy intestines in both gloved hands.

‘My god hung himself in return for knowledge. He will take your secrets from you as you fade away Thorir, as I give a gift to him of a dishonourable man.’

Loop after loop of hot, worming intestine looped around Thorir’s neck, and around his hands as he tried feebly to stop Ulfgar. Tighter and tighter, the seemingly endless coils of gut wound around Thorir’s throat as he struggled for breath. Moving in front of the dying man, Ulfgar slipped a small knife from a sheath suspended from his neck, carving four angled lines into Thorir’s forehead before pushing the dead man back onto his heels, hands still bound to his throat by his own innards.

‘May Odin be swift with you. Swifter than you were with Sigrid and Thorleif.’

Published in: on April 21, 2009 at 23:01  Comments (1)  

Evolution.

There comes a time in every man’s life when he must face his limitations.

This weekend was not that time.

My bike had developed a tight spot in the chain some months back, and after putting up with it as one of the idiosyncrasies of the bike’s sound, and a warning from my service centre, I decided to swap the chain over.

The chain on your average motorcycle is a roughly five foot long, inch-wide set of roller bearings and o-rings, designed to transmit power from the engine to the rear wheel. Still with me? Right. If that chain fails, you have something akin to a very annoyed taipan thrashing about, either destroying your sprockets (the circular, toothed discs that engage the chain), shatter your gearbox (c’mon, you know what a gearbox is), or lock around the axle of your rear wheel, turning it from a ‘wheel’ to a ‘stop’. That’s why motorcycle mechanics handle these things.

Except deep down, every bloke is a mechanic. We pulls things to bits, we fiddle about, we usually break whatever it was we were trying to fix. We keep innumerable projects around the house or sacred garage, parts for things that possibly don’t exist, and all manner of tools, gadgets, and weird metal things that could be tools. It doesn’t matter if it’s a 350 Chev small block or a Nikon D700, a bloke will pull it apart mainly because he’s been told not to. It’s in our genes, somewhere. Some mutant alleles that scream ‘fiddle!’ on a primal note.

So. Buggered chain. New chain. Three motorcycle garages within 4 kilometres. What do I do?

I do it myself.

Of course.

The first night involved hours of internet research (which is about thirty seconds of real, book-related research) too many cans and the neanderthal response of finding a bigger screwdriver to remove the old chain. The old chain that was incredibly well-lubed when it was off the bike, just not so well when it was on the bike. Laying it on a clean sheet of masking paper (one of the perks of having a spraypainter for a brother is huge rolls of metre-wide paper, complete with handy masking tape), I discovered it was almost a full link longer than the new chain. We’re talking metal that’s about three millimetres thick stretching due to torque. Ouch.

After removing the old chain, and soaking mostly myself in kero (rag in one hand, kerosene bottle in the other, apparently putting the two together was one can beyond me), everything was set to put the new, shiny, gold-plated chain on. Well not gold-plated, but gold-coloured. Near enough eh!*

Chain on, master link in, x-rings lubed and in the right spot, master link clip… erm. Master link clip? Oh. Stuck to the underside of my foot. No panic, I still have it. Clip goes here, and… doesnt clip. Hmm. Try pliers. Doesnt clip. Try hammer. Doesnt clip. Try bizarre combination of hex key, bar clamp, multigrips, and brute force and… well it might be in. It’s not coming off easily. Uh. I’ll sleep on it.

The next day, today actually, I checked the link. And checked it again. My brain went over all the horrible possibilities of the chain failing, including decapitation (merely impossible) right up to the two-million-dollars-worth-of-damage my insurance policy covers. I have odd nightmares of riding over a few Bugatti Veyrons whenever I read how much I’m covered for. Eight hours spent wondering what might go wrong, waiting for dark before I set out to re-fuel the bike. Why wait for dark? I ride better at night. I can’t explain it, it’s just… me being naturally adapted to the dark, distended irises or something. Retinal infarction? Meh, anyhow.

The paranoia of mechanical failure was eating away at me. Some rubbishy $2 piece of metal was between me and ultimate, messy, failure.

The world stopped. And I asked myself ‘if I don’t have enough faith in myself, and my abilities, then… should I really be riding?’

There wasnt a long period of thought. Not even long enough for a single note of thinking music. I chucked my leathers on, grabbed my helmet, and went out.

I rode without earplugs for a change, straining my hearing over the noise of the wind for the slightest unusual clink or clunk. My fingertips barely grazed the bars, waiting to feel the slightest change in vibration or motion. My knees hugged the tank, feeling the rumble of the twin cylinders and half expecting them to suddenly scream once the chain let go.

And nothing happened.

Just smooth, quiet, effortless motion.

I revved. The bike leapt.

I revved harder. The bike leapt further.

I upgeared, I downgeared, I overtook two different cars in two different turning lanes because they were clearly not accelerating fast enough.**

My mechanical ability remains intact. I serviced a major component of my bike with zero problems. The link is still there. The chain is still there. I’m still here. Had things gone pear-shaped, well, this would’ve been a very different entry, possibly demonizing the manufacturers of a $2 metal clip that mysteriously failed. My limitations clearly don’t end at changing the chain of a motorcycle, although the mysteries of the Mikuni Carburettors still elude me, like many an apprentice mechanic.

I live, and I ride, I’m a bloke and sometimes… all three unite in a massive grin.

*Note to self. Do not use this as justification or explanation for rubbish jewellery bought for SO.

**Anything that accelerates slower than my piddly little 250 gets overtaken. Anything that overtakes me is clearly scary and should be given more room.

Published in: on March 29, 2009 at 18:52  Comments (1)  

Etymology.

‘Skollvaldr’.

One of the many names of Odin, chieftain-deity, a god of many faces and many disguises. The name itself roughly translates as ‘treachery ruler’, or ‘lord of treason’, but to understand what it means you need to have a solid grounding in the Norse pantheon, and indeed, Scandinavian history. Pacts made with Odin are treacherous; many a king or warrior falls victim to Odin’s machinations, and many human conflicts begin as a result of something promised, something given, or something gone horribly wrong.

But at the same time, Odin is betrayed. By his own family, by those around him, and even by humans on the rare chance they get the upperhand. I chose the name ‘Skollvaldr’ for my wordpress blog not because I fancy myself some sort of treasonous upstart, but as a reminder of the treachery that abounds.

Take tonight at work for example. I’m told by the Management Consultant (who I have faith in because of who he is) that the girl in the office has been ratting out not just me, but other team members, to the boss. She’s trying to wrangle her way into some sort of permanent position by badmouthing the rest of the team. She’s been saying I spend a lot of my time standing around, or hanging out in the office, or making coffee. Which is true, to a certain extent. I stand around keeping an eye on what’s going on and where we’re at, as a team, because it’s something I’m used to doing as a team leader. I hang out in the office because I’m waiting on paperwork (her department) or on trucks to arrive. I make a lot of coffee because the nature of our work, and the timing it all happens during, means I don’t get a lunch break, I just get three or four coffees throughout the shift, and the occasional smoke when I’m letting the curtains off a truck.

In the words of the consultant, if she has time to notice all of this then clearly she’s not doing her job quite so methodically either.

In person, she’s nice, polite, and likes to joke around and be ‘one of the boys’. Behind the scenes she’s attempting to further herself at the expense of everyone else. There’s a traitor amongst us.

At first I was angry. Then merely dismayed, because this is normal behaviour for a lot of people. I won’t use people to get ahead, I’ll use action. I’ve been stabbed in the back often enough to never want to inflict that on someone else, and yet I see it seemingly every second day. The thing is… you develop scars. Armour. And a certain tenacity.

I’m undecided how to handle things at work, so I’ll postpone any sort of reactionary measures until at least Monday.

45.
Ef þú át annan
þanns þú illa trúir
vildu af honum þó gótt geta
fagrt skalt við þann mæla
en flátt hyggja
ok gjalda lausung við lygi

Published in: on March 26, 2009 at 21:59  Leave a Comment  

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Part of me thinks this is complete bullshit. A break? Things that break normally don’t go back together very well. And I know what the wait is for – someone flying to work in Scotland, meaning someone else is going to be alone – and frankly, being switched off because someone else needs time to deal with stuff? Reeks of insincerity. I don’t know. This is the angry part of my brain that generally wants to solve things with alcohol, firearms, or the good old headbutt – none of which would help right now. By this time tomorrow, I should have an email, which’ll have an apology, a brief pseudo-explanation, and a ‘we’re okay’ attitude; I know how it’ll work.

All or nothing. It’s the way my brain works, like an axe. There’s no subtlety with an axe, no half-measures, just short, sudden black and white outcomes. In the past that sort of mental state has led to some… well, let’s put it bluntly. I’ve had psychotic episodes. Not violently psychotic, but ‘I’m not here right now’ psychosis. Total emotional detachment, manipulative, sociopathic behaviour. Something upstairs leaves the cockpit, hitting the autopilot switch, and the autopilot is a cruel, merciless son of a bitch.

*breathes*

Scary thing is I got so into work today, I didnt have much time to think about anything. Which is probably why it’s all coming out now. I’m a damn good forklift driver, but jeez do I get focused.

More tomorrow. I’ll update this thing. Again.

Published in: on March 23, 2009 at 22:00  Comments (2)  

I need a break. I’m…kind of a mess right now. And. I wasn’t even going to tell you. But. That’s what I do. Tell you. Everything. And I just…need a break. I can only hope, you won’t disappear. That you’ll understand. And. Still love me. And still be here.

Yeah well… it happens eh? There’s not a hell of a lot I can do. I’m not angry, disappointed, entirely surprised or dismayed. This is what happens in relationships, the good, the bad and the ugly. And gods know I’ve been through all three.

So where am I now? Here. Home. I’m still me, she’s still her, just she’s decided to hit the pause button for a while. I know why, and here isnt the place to discuss it, believe me. Even an anonymous WordPress blog isn’t the place to explain some things.

The last time I heard those four words, ‘I need a break…’ they were out of my own mouth. At the time I’d been with a girl for four years, we’d just been through a pregnancy scare (well, I was scared), and I was struggling with new-found ideas of liberty, and living. Really living. I’d recently gotten my bike license, I’d discarded years of anxieties and finally learnt to stand on my own two feet. I was also becoming more involved with TGAW; too involved. And I couldnt do the whole bit-on-the-side thing, so I asked for a time out to get my head, and indeed my heart, straight.

My ex-gf used the time to get closer to a work colleague, complete with late night rides on the back of his sportsbike. She showed zero interest in my bike I might add. Not sure if you’ve ever seen a pillion on a sportsbike, but let’s say things are quite snug. For three months she fended me off with lies, until I finally got her around one night, and she told me the truth. Thing was… I’d discovered I’d wanted to be with her, and that things were going in the right direction. Until I heard what she had to say, which brought back dark, bitter memories of another ex-girlfriend who basically started shagging her other boyfriend the minute she moved out. I didnt know about him until six months later, oddly enough.

Where is all this going? Oh yeah. ‘I need a break’. Well… that’s fine. But I’m not going to put a pause on my life, lock myself in my room and disembowel myself waiting for months before hearing it’s over. I’ll take each day as it comes. I’ll continue to live. And no matter how things turn out, for better or worse, I’ll still be me.

And that’s more than I’ve walked away from relationships with in the past.

If this was me five years ago, I’d be half-drunk already and lamenting like an Irishman.

If this was me ten years ago, I’d have lost the plot and be climbing the walls or begging for Vicodin or something.

But it’s me, now. Stronger, fitter, smarter and less raw.

Edit: Something I’ve been forgetting to mention. FML reminds me, sometimes, that my life really isn’t that bad.

Tonight’s musical theme: Foo Fighters – Monkey Wrench

Published in: on March 22, 2009 at 18:45  Comments (4)  

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Sifjum er þá blandat
hverr er segja ræðr
einum allan hug
alt er betra
en sé brigðum at vera
era sá vinr öðrum
er vilt eitt segir

Peace and trust are exchanged
when one can tell
another his whole mind.
Anything is better than to be faithless:
he is not another’s friend
who says only what the friend wants to hear.

(via Beyond Weird)

I’m blessed with few friends, but friends I can trust absolutely. Seeing as some of the people I know on Facebook have amassed three-figure friends counts, makes you wonder what the precise definition of ‘friend’ is these days, if it’s just blurred right across the spectrum, from people you’re sleeping with to someone with the same last name as you. Erm. Those two should never happen in the same sentence. Drit.

Eons ago, I had thirty or forty people on my Yahell Messenger friends list. I was actually on very close terms with about twenty of those, the others I was sort of keeping track of; which is just another way of saying ‘wanting to know when they’re online so I can stay offline‘. These days I can switch Messenger on to find none of those people exist any more. They’ve dispersed, drifted away, melted into other parts of the net and disconnected.

I know four or five are still online. I’m in contact with one of them, even after several breaks in contact and both of us drifting on and offline. The reason we’re still in contact? A very basic, very simple friendship based on truth, and honesty. If I’m being a fuckwit, he’ll tell me. We agree, we disagree, we both have odd senses of humour (there’s only so many wrong baby jokes in the world), but above all, we’re painfully honest.

Because that’s what friends are. Real friends. Someone you can be right or wrong around, someone you can disagree with without thinking about burying an axe in their head, someone who has different views that only add to your perspective on the world. People you can admire as well as guide, people who’ll talk as well as listen. Seems to be happening less and less these days.

Published in: on March 20, 2009 at 10:53  Comments (2)  

I Aint’nt Dead

I have drafts,  but no posts.

Transmission will resume shortly.

Published in: on March 16, 2009 at 10:48  Comments (1)  
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